tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21870845.post6333691859541810264..comments2023-10-02T13:32:13.207+00:00Comments on Anne Brooke Books: An angry dayAnne Brookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03982495677389302410noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21870845.post-36534420723308683892007-03-24T19:24:00.000+00:002007-03-24T19:24:00.000+00:00Thanks, Sue - much appreciated! And yes the break ...Thanks, Sue - much appreciated! And yes the break was good!<BR/><BR/>A<BR/>xxxAnne Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03982495677389302410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21870845.post-71373655961450749212007-03-22T00:15:00.000+00:002007-03-22T00:15:00.000+00:00So sorry to hear how you've been feeling.The big p...So sorry to hear how you've been feeling.<BR/><BR/>The big problem with depression, is that for the main part, you don't look any different. If you have a broken arm, people can 'see it' and comment on it.<BR/><BR/>With depression, people ask how are you feeling? That is not something you can sum up and usually end up with the answer 'fine' because you try and make it easy for them.<BR/><BR/>Sad I know, but as my mom used to say about being a woman. If you're standing up, then everything's okay!<BR/><BR/>You make the most of your break and have a fab time. Being away from everything can bring great clarity.<BR/><BR/>Hugs<BR/><BR/>Sue xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21870845.post-15760817101135115342007-03-19T10:17:00.000+00:002007-03-19T10:17:00.000+00:00Thanks so much, Sue - that's really helpful. Good ...Thanks so much, Sue - that's really helpful. Good to know I'm not alone for sure! Sorry to hear about the ups and downs with your friend though - and glad things seem to be better right now. I hope the cake is fab - I'm sure it will be - btw.<BR/><BR/>Huge hugs back<BR/><BR/>A<BR/>xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxAnne Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03982495677389302410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21870845.post-39335215461960985152007-03-19T09:38:00.000+00:002007-03-19T09:38:00.000+00:00Oh Anne, you poor thing, I’m so sorry you are feel...Oh Anne, you poor thing, I’m so sorry you are feeling so down. <BR/><BR/>I can't comment on the religous thing as I am the most unreligous person you could find. <BR/>The ‘friend’ thing seems to be pretty universal – I had a good old moan to Peter about a close friend of mine only a week ago. When I lived closer too her I was always popping in to see her – several times a week in fact but, because she had kids, I sort of accepted that I’d be doing most of the ‘going to see’ bit – so it was always my petrol being used, me making the arrangements to go out etc. <BR/><BR/>Now I’ve moved further away from her,and her children are grown up enough to look after themselves, I find that it’s still me going to see her – I see her every 2 to 3 weeks at least. She has been to our house about 4 times (in a period of 1½ years) – each time at my instigation – not her phoning up and suggesting she come round. <BR/><BR/>My latest annoyance was over me making several phone calls to keep in touch and her not phoning back (maybe the daughters didn’t pass on the message I don’t know). When I did finally get hold of her – she’d had a bad day at work and didn’t have time to chat but said she ring me at the week-end. She did finally ring on the Sunday but only to ask me when I was going round with a present for her daughter, and then that got re-arranged when the daughter wasn’t going to be in (therefore messing up my other arrangements). As I have blogged, I am making a cake for the party, but I wasn’t ‘asked’ to make it – it was phrased as "oh, Sue will do the cake, won’t you? as I’ll be too busy with the rest of the arrangements". I was pretty miffed in being taken advantage of in that way I can tell you – sometimes it’s just the way a question is asked that makes all the difference. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, at my latest visit last Thursday, I had promised myself that if there was any sort of ‘atmosphere’ I was going to speak my mind but said friend was very welcoming (maybe she had been feeling a little guilty about neglecting me, I don’t know) and we are back on firm ground again (albeit with me having a few niggles in the back of my mind). <BR/><BR/>At the end of the day though, it is a friendship that has lasted since we were 18 and I can’t imagine my life without her, and her family, in it. So sometimes you have to step back and look at the bigger picture. <BR/><BR/>I think in life you are either a ‘giver’ or a ‘taker’ and it is sad to say that if you are friends with someone who errs towards the ‘taker’ end of the spectrum you either have to accept it or let the friendship drift as people rarely change. <BR/><BR/>Reading this back, I’m sure this helps at all! but I hope this helps you to realise that you are not alone in feeling the way you do and that lot’s of people question their friendships from time to time – I guess it’s like any relationship – ups and downs. <BR/><BR/>I hope today is a easier day for you. Huge hugs from me and Peter.<BR/>XXXLover of Books, Films and Good Coffee Shops Everywhere!https://www.blogger.com/profile/17498193066349660517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21870845.post-48014296736559710562007-03-18T23:10:00.000+00:002007-03-18T23:10:00.000+00:00Give 'em hell, Peter!! I can really sympathise. So...Give 'em hell, Peter!! I can really sympathise. Sorry for getting you cross about stuff like that too though ...<BR/><BR/>Empathetic (is that even a word??) hugs <BR/><BR/>A<BR/>xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxAnne Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03982495677389302410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21870845.post-52150592290732036442007-03-18T22:17:00.000+00:002007-03-18T22:17:00.000+00:00Oh tell me about it Anne. I went through a dressin...Oh tell me about it Anne. I went through a dressing time of it a while back and told one close friend. Got not much sympathy back. And as for the friends not contacting you. Well that’s one of the reasons I don’t see my very good friend James anymore. I had to do all the calling and if I didn’t call for a while I would just a sarcastic ‘oh you are still alive then, we thought you must be dead as you haven’t been in touch recently’. Well he obviously didn’t care that much if I was alive/ill/dead etc.<BR/><BR/>Some relatives are the same. Meet up with my mate Duncan a while back. The first thing he said to me? My Aunt who lives across the road from him had moaned to him that I hadn’t been in touch lately. Well its just as easy for you to contact me and it is for me to contact you.. If you are that concerned about the lack of communication then pick up the phone or drop me a letter. Just don’t sit on your backside doing nothing but moan to my mates about it.<BR/><BR/>Sorry you got me angry now… grrrrrrrr <BR/><BR/>Hugs<BR/><BR/>Peter<BR/>xPeterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08343464146308441911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21870845.post-60859329833424477932007-03-18T20:56:00.000+00:002007-03-18T20:56:00.000+00:00Thanks, Joanna - and yes I know exactly what you'r...Thanks, Joanna - and yes I know exactly what you're saying! And you're right about the creative thing, damn it!<BR/><BR/>A<BR/>xxxAnne Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03982495677389302410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21870845.post-42267937172596793712007-03-18T20:28:00.000+00:002007-03-18T20:28:00.000+00:00I sympathise with your feelings of anger and melan...I sympathise with your feelings of anger and melancholy...and indeed, similar things have happened to me regarding friendships. I've told people I get very down and don't feel like being social when I'm in 'That Mood', but instead of comforting me over my depression, they take it as a personal insult and get annoyed with me! And so I get zero sympathy. I really do think being a creative type is bloody hard sometimes...but hey, we're allowed to be angry and moody. It's part of the writer's package! Keep up the good work.Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14643871103694576619noreply@blogger.com